One Mom's Journey

My daughter is 3 and a half.  The other day she says to me, "Maman, I cannot wait to be bigger so I can work" - to which I replied "you aren't aloud to grow up that fast".  I don't know what the fascination is for children to want to grow up and work, or grow up and be like Mom and Dad, but I am pretty sure it has something to do with us being their most influential role model.  They see us do all sorts of incredible things that they can't to do yet.  That being said, a lot of what our children learn is through watching and listening to us. You know what is sad?  Is that most of us fail to see that, and we continue to rush through life and miss all those moments where our kids are being kids.

My goal going forward is to try and stop the rush and teach my kids about the truly important things in life.

1. Family is the most Important Thing you will Ever Own not Toys or Cars or HousesIn todays day and age, with soaring populations and global warming, and traffic and sicknesses, you just never know from day to day what is going to happen. They need to learn to not take family for granted.
2. Having Fun is better than winningSounds so cliché and to be honest, I cannot believe I want to teach my kids this - my husband and I are super competitive people, and so our kids have inherited double the competitiveness...it is trouble, I foresee it - so I plan on teaching them that fun is way better

When my oldest daughter was 2, I started trying to figure out how to get rid of that darn soother.  Her soother attachment was getting out of control.  Parents with children and soothers totally understand this constant battle to wean the child of the soother.  It is not easy, and we sometimes lack the confidence to take it away.  I know myself, I feared losing the afternoon nap and the constant battle to stop the crocodile tears. I am sure you all felt similar.  While researching some different methods, I came across this awesome list from About.com and thought I would share it.

1. Cold turkey. Stand your ground and don't give in!  It is tough, but you can do it.
2. Phase it out. Start by only allowing it at bed times and in the car, then take away the car, then take away nap, then take away overnight.  Over time is the key to this one.
3. Say hello to the "Soother Fairy" or any other mythological creature of your choosing. The goal here is to take the pressure and anger off of the parents and transform it into a rewarding event. Soothers or pacifiers go to the mythological fairy in exchange for a treat or a present. Preparation is key for this, so best to use a book or song as a tool - and repeat it often.

The children’s book, Susy the Soother Fairy, newly released this past December and is quickly becoming the go-to tool for parents who have a child with a serious soother/pacifier attachment. The book, written and illustrated by Laura Page-Hamelin in Oakville, Ontario, features a fairy and a magic sac that helps toddlers get rid of their soother/pacifier attachments once and for all.

Susy the Soother Fairy Comes when you are Three, is targeted at three year olds directly. Three year olds are able to process the information and accept what is about to happen.. The book comes complete with Susy’s magic sac, making the experience very real and successful for young ones.

This may sound horrible, but we have all ended up in this situation at least once in our lifetime.  I call it the ditch the b**ch.  It is a tough decision, but just like all things in life, this deserves a truly weighted decision. Manage the pro's and con's of keeping that friend around or ditching them for good.

Everyone has there own reasons for wanting to ditch a friend, so here are some ways on how to do it, 1 being the most tactful and hardest way - and 10 being the easiest and least tactful.  This is kind of like a choose your own adventure, because no matter which way you do it, there is bound to be some sort of short term and negative outcome.

In January of 2013 I made a very important decision to pursue the publishing of a book that I wrote and illustrated for my daughter.  The book was a tool to help her get rid of her soother - Susy the Soother Fairy. It was a leap of faith, and I watched for all the signs pointing to yes or pointing to no.  I reached out to many different authors and a trail of very successful women who helped me make my final decision. It was a very cool process, and it seemed very natural, nothing was forced.  So I followed the signs.

Here are some of the signs that scream "YES!" self-publish your book!

1. Your draft is complete, edited and perfect
2. You have reached out for feedback from family, friends and strangers and results are positive

When my hubby asked me what I wanted to do for Valentine's day, I told him flat out - stay home - order in and make it special for the kids too.  Once they go to bed, we can have our true Valentine's day (minus wine for me...boo).  He was apprehensive at first because we always do something, but this is the first year we don't have any support - the parents are all out of town, and we have never hired a baby sitter...and I am not starting on Valentine's day.

Here is what we are doing and it might be fun for all you others who are in the same boat.

#1  - Taking the Day off Work

Yes - I am doing it.  Why?  So I can have a nice relaxing morning while the kids are at daycare - then pick them up early and make some Valentine's day crafts.  Maybe hit up

My Mom and Dad have always done such a great job to make Valentine's day special for the kids.  Every Valentine's day growing up (as far as I can remember) I had a little gift of chocolates and a hand written note wishing me happy Valentine's day from Daddy.  Being Daddy's only little girl, I sure felt special.

Mom always had homemade cupcakes decorated special for Valentine's that were so delicious.  I often helped her decorate them.  The best part is they have continued this tradition with my baby girls, and have made it special for them in turn.  I love it.  To me, family and tradition is a big part of Valentine's day, and so I am passing on a few crafts for you to do with your little ones this year.

A Variety Of Printables

Spoonful.com has generously posted a variety of printable coloring pages, activity sheets, 3D candy boxes featuring your favorite Disney characters, and of course a mailbox full of printable Valentines Day cards.