One Mom's Journey

This may sound horrible, but we have all ended up in this situation at least once in our lifetime.  I call it the ditch the b**ch.  It is a tough decision, but just like all things in life, this deserves a truly weighted decision. Manage the pro's and con's of keeping that friend around or ditching them for good.

Everyone has there own reasons for wanting to ditch a friend, so here are some ways on how to do it, 1 being the most tactful and hardest way - and 10 being the easiest and least tactful.  This is kind of like a choose your own adventure, because no matter which way you do it, there is bound to be some sort of short term and negative outcome.

1. Call her up 

Tell her point blank you cannot be fri
ends with her anymore.  Do not allow conversation, do not allow yourself to be swindled back into a friendship with this person. Stick to your guns, there is a reason why you don't want to be friends.

2. Leave a voice mail 

If you don't have the guts to talk one on one, leave a voice mail.  Tell her you no longer want to be friends, and tell her to not try and contact you about this, your decision has been made

3. Write her a long email 

Explain why you must go your separate ways.  Indicate and give examples of why you can no longer hang out.  Ask her to stop contacting you.  Do not reply to any return emails - it will be hard, but do not do it. Again, there is a reason why you don't want to be friends - don't drag it on.

4. Send her snail mail

Old school - but shows effort and determination.  Someone is less likely to snail mail you back - so expect a phone call or a text message with a big WTF attached to it.

5. Send her a package

Include some old pictures and a hand written note indicating that you are returning her things and do not want to be contacted.  This is a final decision.  This one teeters on the notion of untactful, so expect retaliation.

6. Send a text message

For sure a super immature way of dealing with a friendship break up.  Don't be surprised if this turns into a full on war.  Decide ahead of time how much back and forth you want, then cut it off.  Try and avoid profanities and name calling. It will look better on you..

7. Ask a Common friend

Have one of your mutual buddies tell her why you have been avoiding her. Super untactful at this point...but I suppose it all depends on personality type.  Someone who hates confrontation would likely choose this route because you will likely never hear from the person directly again.  Be prepared to potentially lose the mutual friend in the process...

8. Send an e-card

Break up with her over an e-card.  An absolute mockery of your relationship.  This is definitely not winning you any medals for tact.

9. Avoid at all cost

Stop returning phone calls, texts and facebook posts...definitely rude...leaves the other person high and dry and in the dark.  But I suppose if you don't have the guts - then this is the way to do it.

10. Facebook post

This is not only untactful, but immature and uncalled for.  This would for sure only be necessary for situations that deserve a public outing like this.  I don't think anyone truly deserves this, but I have seen it done in the past.  The worst way to break up with a friend for sure.

Although I compiled this list, I do not condone any of these methods (except maybe the first 4).  I am sure there is a time and a place, or an age and a reason for doing any of these break ups aforementioned.  This list may be helpful for anyone at any given time - after all - we all will go through this at least once - c'est la vie.